Ball or Baal?
Many parents are beginning to experience early symptoms of an increasingly common condition that will likely reach epidemic proportions by late spring—“bleacher bottom.” The symptoms of bleacher bottom (also called “spectator syndrome”) generally include fatigue, sore throat, decreased family time, and sporadic church attendance. The origin of this infirmity is found in the overabundance of hours spent watching children participate in sporting events. The symptoms often become more and more intense until the fever breaks after the post-season tournaments. What can you do to prevent a household outbreak?
Athletic competition can be an extremely valuable activity for children and families to be involved in. Playing sports is fun, healthy, and instructive. Children learn teamwork, physical discipline, how to handle winning and losing, and many other crucial lessons for development. Beyond that, city leagues provide tremendous opportunities for Christian families to be “in” the community and interact with players and parents who are not believers.
But as many of you have discovered, getting your children involved in sports is not simply a matter of writing a check and signing little Billy and Sue up for the season. If you have more than one child playing sports, you may be committing yourself to four or five evenings out each week. Juggling schedules and arranging transportation become all-consuming tasks. And this is where my challenge comes in: Be careful lest you deify sports in your home!
How do you know if “ball” is the Baal of your home? A sport is your idol when it controls you so that you order your life around it. You find it nearly impossible to say “no” to it.
Upon being questioned about over-involvement sports, parents often respond, “The team needs all the players. We can’t let the team down. If Johnny is going to play sports, he needs to be willing to make some sacrifices (code for less church involvement).” It always seems that the first thing busy families trim out of busy lives is the church. So for the sake of the “team” they neglect the “Body” which is being deprived of a necessary member in disobedience to God’s instruction not to “forsake the assembly of the saints” (Heb. 10:25).
So how can you teach your children to be athletic competitors without leading them to be sports worshippers? (1) Communicate. Let your child and coach know before the season starts that when sports conflicts with Sunday worship or another significant church activity, the church will be the priority. (2) Set limits. For your sanity and the sanctity of the home, avoid spreading your family too thin by being involved in every sport. You may limit involvement to one sport per year for each child. (3) Seek alternatives. Certain sports demand more time than others. Intentionally select activities that fit into your family’s schedule the best.
I do not claim to write from vast personal experience in this. We are only beginning to plan how we will handle athletics and other extracurricular activities our children might become involved in. But that really is the key: planning. The Israelites did not plan on chasing after idols—they just did not obey the Lord’s instruction in setting up necessary boundaries to prevent it. To fail to plan is to plan to fail. Let us just be careful we don’t unintentionally “bench” God for the season and begin to bow our knee to “ball.”
Justin Culbertson
Berachah Bible Church
